Monday, November 15, 2010

WHAT IS THIS? PEOPLE YOU NEED IN YOUR LIFE – THE LEGACY OF EBUN KOFOWOROLA AKINYEMI


One of the first things I learnt in my walk as a Christian was from Mike Muddork. He said there are two types of people in your life. People who add to you or subtract from you. People who multiply you  or divide you. This sounded like basic elementary arithmetic  but as I began to grow I saw  the depth of this profound truth.  He also emphasized that for you to become what God wants you to be, you need to focus only on and develop the relationships that add and multiply  you and reduce your investment on those who subtract from or divide you.
It was sometimes in the early Nineties, I was a young man who just left College and was trying to figure my path in ministry and service. I started by living with a Senior Uncle (very wonderful and warm man) and his wife (very sacrificial woman) who took us in into an already  full house. I got involved with a revival that God brought into their local church. It was an Anglican church which as at that time had some few pockets of strong resistance to our brand of Pentecostal evangelism. After the crusades and the great renewals of heart that followed, the leadership of the church banished “strangers”  like me who were changing their children from sin to righteousness  in  the church. We prophesied that God will bring a fresh  lease of life into this church as I moved out of the zone to live in another part of town.  It was against this background after about 18 months that this wonderful woman walked into my life! I will never forget the day! How can I? She is Mrs. EBUN KOFOWOROLA AKINYEMI. I will call her EKA (which stands for her initials) from  now.
She was different. She was warm and very condescending. She had just moved to the church  with her husband who just became the vicar. For the first time in a very long time, I found myself preaching in an evening service in the church. I was allowed back in due to the change in leadership. I was curious to meet this couple who brought the brand of forward looking and life changing Christianity to the church. When I finished and left for my Uncle’s place, EKA sent for me that I should see her before I leave. I could not do that so I rescheduled to see her the week after. I was amazed. The new vicar’s wife wanted to see me! I came a week after as scheduled and it was love at first sight. She adopted me as a Son. She began to  nurture me and taught me things I never knew. She was  a gift to me and my destiny. She taught me things that made me to know that your life is not measured by the quantum of people around you  but the substance in the few you have.
After about four years at their post, they got transferred to Ilesha about 4 hours drive from Lagos but the relationship stayed. It had to. I needed this kind of people in my life. She got sick and battled till the very end for months. On November 4, 1998 she died at very-very unripe age of 55 years. She left something in me  and with me! She was the “bomb” using today’s ‘slang’. She “gingered my swagger” as today’s youths will say.
I decided to highlight her effects on my destiny and to celebrate how the quality of people around you can shape you. I hope they will challenge you into relevance and show you that little things we do can really affect destinies as we surround  ourselves with  people WE NEED AND NOT PEOPLE  WE WANT.
1.      OPEN BOOK
Joh 1:47  Jesus saw Nathanael coming to him, and saith of him, Behold an Israelite indeed, in whom is no guile!
Jesus declared that Nathanael was without deceit, no craftiness. EKA was straightforward and sometimes nicely blunt. When you have people who say something and mean something else around you, your system shuts down! It weighs down your hard drive in life. The first time my wife (fiancée then) met her she passed the same comment about her. I made some mistakes few years back in business. I surrounded myself with people who say something  and meant something else. I gave them  power and position building structures around them. The structure of the business got rotten and almost died. If you want to go far, look for “open books” who mean yes when they say yes. If a potential spouse cant keep simple promises, don’t marry her/him!
Mat 5:37  But let your communication be, Yea, yea; Nay, nay: for whatsoever is more than these cometh of evil.
2.      FRESHNESS AND WARMTH
It does not matter what you are dealing with or what matter you came with, EKA will disarm you and encourage you. When she shows up! There is hope! Even when she has not spoken, half of the work of encouragement is done just by seeing her. I missed that in her and its been very difficult to get a replacement for that. I have observed that this kind of people devote time to you when you need attention, no matter how busy they are. Her hugs were made in heaven. She once told me that she hardly sees a child that does not respond to her hug when they are being troublesome in a church service. We need people that releases the will to move on into our lives when  we are discouraged. We need  encouragers!
Deu 3:28  But charge Joshua, and encourage him, and strengthen him: for he shall go over before this people, and he shall cause them to inherit the land which thou shalt see.
3.      SACRIFICIAL
EKA can give you her eyes – literally. If I start detailing how sacrificial she was, it will fill tens of pages. I will mention one. When I was doing my M.SC project, I needed to move faster on my dissertation and present the next chapter to my supervisor in three days. I had no laptop to use. I was passing by her place. In her characteristic manner – she saw through me and knew something was wrong. I mentioned my challenge to her. She went inside immediately and gave me a laptop to use over the weekend. Whao! Just like that. It was when I returned the laptop that I discovered that her husband was using the laptop just before he went out and still needed it but she took the risk and gave it to me! Why did God not make me same time he made nice people like this! If the only people around you are those who wants and wants and asks and…. Keep asking, you will not last -even if you are a billionaire because the pressure they give can make people expire before their time. You need people around you who can stick with you at any cost. She once told me God asked for my son to be a missionary to nations. I gave him and see how He gave me another one to be there for me while he is away. NO wonder God met their needs even when they both became full time ministers and Daddy  left his work.
2Sa 24:24  But the king answered, "No, I will pay you for it. I will not offer to the LORD my God sacrifices that have cost me nothing." And he bought the threshing place and the oxen for fifty pieces of silver.
4.      PRAYERFUL
1Th 5:17  Pray without ceasing.
When people in your life prays, you will be safe. As EKA gives her counsel, she prays with you and she follows up for your testimony. I learnt a secrete from her. As a Pastor’s wife with lots of visitors and a home that’s almost always full, she steals quiet time by going into the bathroom. Yes- inside the convenience to pray. She told me I run in their to recharge! I found myself practicing this when I was working in a construction sites. It works! There is a quietness you get inside a restroom. There is no better definition of Alone with God. Another place I have found a good application of this in inside the Airplane. Ten minutes of quietness at 37000 feet above sea level reinvigorates. Try it! Surround yourself with people who are not just “believing God to pray for you” but will actually pray.
5.      LEGACY AND SETBACK HANDLING
Hab 2:2  And the LORD answered me, and said, Write the vision, and make it plain upon tables, that he may run that readeth it.
Surround  yourself  with  people who have a legacy and want to have a clear Christ like testimonies and it will rub off on you. They see the bigger picture in everything. People who see the bigger picture are less selfish! They also serve God and humanity  without stress. On the day of her burial, her husband called me into their room and brought out two books that summarizes this legend. The two books are part 1 and 2 of “ STREAMS IN THE DESSERT” by Mrs. Charles E. Cowman. She does not only use this books for her devotional, the pages of this devotional is littered with what she went through – in ministry, her sickness, her loneliness when she got a new posting, her doubts and fears about her children. She documented  her testimonies, the time, dates and location of these experiences in these two books. I first came in contact with the books on one of my visits to EKA while she was alive as she shared her encounter with the Holy Spirit with me. The Husband  gave me one of them and kept one of them. Here are some excerpts of what she  wrote in the book in  response to a quote  by Whitefield:
this was the night He did in it 1994( in the toilet as usual)-Power flowed in and the spirit to  know things came back”
On another night, she  wrote:
stop grumbling. Since you retired, you still grumble. Stop it. Relax…
While at the hospital on May 15,1998, she asked that I had her quite time with her. When we finished, she asked me to write the notes for that day as she was frail - I wrote,
’ Thank you Lord. you have spoken again– Ife Hospital”
On the front page I wrote, “ Mummy you will live -15 May 1998”
She still went on live 6 more months. Even before the Part 1 on the book was given to me my her husband, I had my notes in their too! No wonder God gave me the privilege to have it! I keep this book by my bed till NOW. The legacy and the inspiration in it can last  a man two full lifetimes. I also have my own memoir littering the book too – my frustrations, setbacks in business and relationship issues fill the book. Its been very difficult to get a mentor per excellence like  EKA. 
Pro 7:3  Bind them upon thy fingers, write them upon the table of thine heart.
6.      BEST INTEREST
EKA always seeks the best interest of those around her including her family members – always! When people around you have ulterior motives for what they do for you, you will struggle! Progress will be slow. She is very thorough. When my wife and I were newly wedded, there were a lot of things we were struggling with. We did not understand why it was so. She took my wife and I under her wings and explained to us why we were behaving the way we were. I would  never have known them if she had not told me. No one ever analyzed it that way before –how  the effect of temperamental differences, family background, vocation and even stature affects behavior. She told me to focus on being an itinerant evangelist  and not be trapped to join the bandwagon of forming a church as that was not the center of my assignment from the little she had seen about me. She sought her husband’s best interest to the extent that on her sick bed in her last days, she was concerned about which woman she could recommend that  will help take care of her husband when she is gone! What a strange woman.
Mrs. Ebunolorun Kofoworola Akinyemi was different. She knew the Lord whom she served. She came , she conquered  and left her mark affecting lives. She impacted. She was an exemplary example of people who should be in our lives- People who can pray. We need people who are straightforward, sacrificial and who seek our best interests. I look forward to seeing her in Heaven. I also pray that  you will not be a waste but you will be relevant enough under God for men to want you in their lives.
2Sa 18:22-23  Ahimaaz spoke to Joab again, "No matter what happens, I still want to run. And besides, the Ethiopian has already left." Joab said, "Why should you run? You won't get a reward for the news you have!" "I'll run no matter what!" Ahimaaz insisted. "All right then, run!" Joab said. Ahimaaz took the road through the Jordan Valley and outran the Ethiopian.
MAY YOU NOT RUN FOR THE SAKE OF RUNNING. MAY YOU GET REWARD FOR RUNNING IN JESUS NAME.




EVANGELIST BEE 
No. 113 –14th NOVEMBER 2010

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35 comments:

RDA said...

Such a life-making women are rare. I pray that we will live our lives to make impact and change destinies. Good write up.
RDA

Alarkate said...

This memories u brouth back this morning has brought fresh tears to my eyes....
I remembered her death last week and i was down the whole day...didnt know someone was gonna write something about this great woman...
She was my Godmother and trully a mother indeed....she cldnt wait for my mother to teach me what a girl just arriving her teens should know...she taught me herself....
I was her last child..her only daughter...(thats how she puts it)....
she taught me womanhood...she taught me to make jam...she taught me to cook and arrange a dinning table...
i was barely 14...wen she taught me what it means to be focused..i used to secretly steal to go see her at home at akinyele bus stop...she took me to her son..Tunde Akinyemi and told him to counsel me on career...i would never forget that day....exactly what we discussed is the career path i have chosen and it has been amazing...
How can i forget this sweet...gracious beautiful woman...who till death was a fighter for herself...her belief...her faith..her husband...her children..and everyone she knew and loved....
This woman could tell what her husband was doing miles away...and it will be as she said it....
A true Woman of God...A soldier...An Ovecomer...A Mother Indeed....An amazing Christian...
I couldnt attend her funeral...didnt think i could stand it....
She was simply that virtuous Woman described in Proverbs..
Big Mummy.....Love u still....always....u re definitely in the hearts of many even after these years

BUKY OF BUKVILLE said...

I am inspired by this story and it confirms my own desire to seek out women such as EKA as mentors.

She truly exemplify the character of the Proverb 31 and Tit 2:4 Older women to teach the younger ones.

You wrote "She was different". I thought to myself; Yes, she had a different spirit about her. Just like Caleb Num14:24-But because my servant Caleb has a different spirit and follows me wholeheartedly.

Just like you were in college and far away from your folks. So are so many of us abroad far, far away from our parents. Hence the need for mentors that are not afraid to speak the truth.

You said it all evangelist. We need more mothers with no self seeking agenda/motives, that are prayerful and full of Godly wisdom.

Certain things comes with Age, Wisdom and Prayer.

What an incredible woman she was. So much to be learnt from her life, thank you for sharing her life with us.

Taiwo akinyemi said...

A tribute to mummy PART ONE
I read your comments and the article you wrote about EKA – mummy. As I read it I couldn’t help but cry. I met mummy for the first time when we had gone to sing in their home off Allen Avenue. We (the music group) all stayed in their home and were made to feel so welcome. Later, I would meet mummy when her son (now my husband) brought me home to meet his parents. I was full of anxiety but mummy made me feel welcomed. At this first meeting, she took me upstairs to her bedroom and asked that I kneel down so we could pray. She prayed for me and for Wale asking that God would lead us in the decision we were about to make. Afterward, she hugged me and I knew this would be my mother not my mother in-law. From that day I was her daughter. I remember our wedding day and how mummy was so radiant and happy saying that she was finally getting her daughter.

Taiwo Akinyemi said...

Tribute to Mummy PART TWO
I remember the day I told her I was pregnant (daddy was there as well) and after he had confirmed all the signs as a doctor and told me that I was truly pregnant; mummy began to dance for joy and praise God.
I remember my first Christmas as Mrs Akinyemi – three months after we got married. It was Christmas eve and we were in the house on Allen Avenue when a Christmas hamper arrived. There were already like three hampers when this new hamper arrived. Bamidele, Tunde, myself and my husband rejoiced because of all the goodies in the hampers. When mummy arrived shortly afterwards, she declared that the things in the hamper would be given to the poor. I was shocked but I learnt a valuable lesson about giving at Christmas time that day. During that first pregnancy, the hospital staff in Ibadan kept going on strike and so I ended up staying in Lagos for 5/6 months before and after my delivery. I never knew it was a God-ordained thing – at least not at the time but during that period, we bonded in a way I cannot adequately describe in words. We would have bible study together, talk and just share. She taught me a lot at this time – how to be a godly wife, how to listen and most of all how to win my battles on my knees. I did not realize that I was in training. I did not know I was learning firsthand how to be a pastor’s wife and a minister. At the time, my husband had an itinerant ministry and I could never have imagined that I would soon become a pastor’s wife. We would sometimes go to visit members of church in Ipaja. I learnt what it meant when the bible talks about “no respect of persons”. People flowed into the house – rich and poor and the reception was always the same regardless of who the visitor was - warm and welcoming. She was always ready to listen- she always had time. There was always a meal for anyone who happened to come in at meal times and if they needed help they knew mummy would do all she could. I watched all this never dreaming it would be my life one day. And as for that devotional you mentioned Brother Banji, I remember it very well – you were given a priceless treasure! (I have family devotion in my own home and it’s pretty much patterned after the format mummy used – after daily devotion I ask my children the same question – what struck you as we shared?)
I remember Mummy staying with me throughout my labour. She refused to go home even though daddy tried to convince her I would be fine. (My husband had travelled out of town at the time).She stayed with me through that night praying for me, holding my hands, crying as she watched me in pain and encouraging me till her period returned – a woman who had already reached menopause! (She travailed for me that night that deeply); and she was right to stay because I had delivered before Daddy arrived the next morning.

Taiwo Akinyemi said...

Tribute to Mummy PART THREE
One time, we came to Nigeria to visit but we didn’t let her know – we wanted to surprise her. By this time, Daddy had retired and they now lived in Ilesha. Mummy and Daddy were in church when we got there, but when she heard we had come, she came out of church and right there in the parking lot she went on her knees and began to thank God – not a quick ‘thank you’ either! She was always full of praise and never ashamed to praise God. It was the last time we would spend time together while she was still strong. Daddy and Mummy became very close friends with my own parents – they would hang out together and it was like old friends together. In fact, I only saw my father cry twice and one of those times was at mummy’s funeral.
I remember how I panicked when she died. I remember asking God to please not take her – I wasn’t sure my husband could handle it. Well, God kept her and we came back to Nigeria to see her and though she was in a hospital bed Mummy was still in-charge. She still shared the word with me,
I remember mummy favorite hymn – Ore ofe sha nigbekele mi. I know now how deeply that grace has worked for us on the mission field in the past eighteen years. I remember so much and as I wrote this, and the tears flowed so many times I’m finally realizing how deeply I miss her. I can only describe her in one word – IMPACT.


Thanks for the opportunity to share Brother Banji.

Anonymous said...

Bro.Banji , thanks for this.
I will never forget mummy ever. I loved the way she used to pray. She used to talk to God and not pray as I know it.She always had a nice word for anybody. In all the years I knew her she never maligned anyone. Not once. Even when people come around her house to complain or say bad things about others. She will always say 'hmmm it is because you do not know her/him ...' She will then go on to bring out one or two good qualities about the person. She was a christian in deed and in truth. I enjoyed every prayer/study time with her. She was warm, loving, caring and a real mother-in-Israel. She said one thing when she was sick, she said 'I am a fighter'. And that has stayed with me, cos when life gives me a raw deal, the fighter in me comes up. That thought me never to give up. She was a lady in deed as well. She taught me some social graces and etiquettes, that have stayed with me. She said a lady should not purse her lips to call out to people, or smack her lips while eating. She had grace and poise. She was an all rounded Christian. Spiritual in tune with her saviour and socially in tune with the society. Her death was shocking and it came at a time when I believe I really needed her. She told me somethings about my marriage that no one ever told me and today I can see what she meant by those words of wisdom. She had insight. Mummy Akinyemi, took my friend Ronke as her own daughter the first time she met her. She cried with Ronke as Ronker told her story. Many people had met my friend and heard her story before then, but no one ever put their arms around Ronke and cried with her. She was that warm. She was a woman of deep inner strength and all her children are blessed. Mummy I know you are in heaven, because that is where angels go, and you were an angel and a rare breed among angels. You had an infectious laughter and used to call everyone 'omo mi'. Sometimes you never asked any questions, you just sat and shared the pains and the hurt mummy. Rare breeds like you only come once in a life time. I have never met anyone with a love for God and His creatures like you. I am not sure I will. She was just different. I guess there are no words to describe her. Anyone who met her, will surely know and testify that their lives had been blessed for knowing her. She was a letter written by His hands for the world to see, to read and know He lived in her. I know you are with Jesus mummy and really my prayer is to make heaven as well. Then the real fellowship will begin.

Thank you God for making her walk through this side of eternity. She came, she loved and am sure she left empty 'cos she gave all to as many as came her way.

God bless you Bro. Banji, for reminding me again about this wonderful woman.

Bunmi Ade-El

Bunmi Ade-El said...

Bro.Banji , thanks for this.
I will never forget mummy ever. I loved the way she used to pray. She used to talk to God and not pray as I know it.She always had a nice word for anybody. In all the years I knew her she never maligned anyone. Not once. Even when people come around her house to complain or say bad things about others. She will always say 'hmmm it is because you do not know her/him ...' She will then go on to bring out one or two good qualities about the person. She was a christian in deed and in truth. I enjoyed every prayer/study time with her. She was warm, loving, caring and a real mother-in-Israel. She said one thing when she was sick, she said 'I am a fighter'. And that has stayed with me, cos when life gives me a raw deal, the fighter in me comes up. That thought me never to give up. She was a lady in deed as well. She taught me some social graces and etiquettes, that have stayed with me. She said a lady should not purse her lips to call out to people, or smack her lips while eating. She had grace and poise. She was an all rounded Christian. Spiritual in tune with her saviour and socially in tune with the society. Her death was shocking and it came at a time when I believe I really needed her. She told me somethings about my marriage that no one ever told me and today I can see what she meant by those words of wisdom. She had insight. Mummy Akinyemi, took my friend Ronke as her own daughter the first time she met her. She cried with Ronke as Ronker told her story. Many people had met my friend and heard her story before then, but no one ever put their arms around Ronke and cried with her. She was that warm. She was a woman of deep inner strength and all her children are blessed. Mummy I know you are in heaven, because that is where angels go, and you were an angel and a rare breed among angels. You had an infectious laughter and used to call everyone 'omo mi'. Sometimes you never asked any questions, you just sat and shared the pains and the hurt mummy. Rare breeds like you only come once in a life time. I have never met anyone with a love for God and His creatures like you. I am not sure I will. She was just different. I guess there are no words to describe her. Anyone who met her, will surely know and testify that their lives had been blessed for knowing her. She was a letter written by His hands for the world to see, to read and know He lived in her. I know you are with Jesus mummy and really my prayer is to make heaven as well. Then the real fellowship will begin.

Thank you God for making her walk through this side of eternity. She came, she loved and am sure she left empty 'cos she gave all to as many as came her way.

God bless you Bro. Banji, for reminding me again about this wonderful woman.

Bunmi Ade-El

Evangelist Bee said...

I have been in transit for better part of today and could not get most of the feedback/comments I am seeing here and on facebook until now. This is heavy and very deep.

I understand when people say they had been crying. Even now I have goose pimples all over me. The truth is EKA touched lives. She touched them deeply and in a focused manner. She did it with tenacity- not because it was convenient but as a christian. She was a one-man riot squad.

She preached and lived it. That's the challenge for us to live before we preach. Heaven will help us.

Thank you all for fleshing it up and giving other perspectives to her story. Even though we know it but it was worth the highlighting. Thank you Sister Taiwo,Alakarte, Bunmi all for the "daughter" perspective.

Coach Buky - well said - we need more women like this in this age.

May God help up us to learn and apply and affect lives for Christ and His Kingdom.

God bless you.
EVB

Olabisi F said...

Thank God for pple of many parts who do not only make a knee mark but also a landmark,she led a life worthy of inspiration and worth mortalising, i wish dis generation of christian women ave something to read about Ebun Koforola Akinyemi,A rare breed indeed pple like her only appears once in a millenium.

Bunmi said...

Mummy was an angel and a rare breed. She had a positive impact on the lives of all who came in contact with her. A gem. It is not how long but what impact our lives have on people around us. Hers was a well lived and purposeful life.

Wale akinyemi said...

I just read this Banji and indeed the memory of the just is blessed.

Femi O. said...

i was just reading your piece on the people you need in your life, quite intresting sir, i came across this portion i quote
''I made some mistakes few years back in business. I surrounded myself with people who say something and meant something else. I gave them power and position building structures around them. The structure of the business got rotten and almost died.''
This is exactly what has just happened to me in business and i have to start all over again to build new structures, thank God for his grace and my loyal customer, I have also learnt wonderful lessons,
hmmmm i'm am still reading your piece,

Anonymous said...

Mumy Akinyemi was another mom to my husband and I the things we could not share with our biological mothers because of the anxiety and concern it could cause,Mumy Akinyemi was the listenig ear.She shared some of her experience as a newly wed with me and they are great treasures and words of wisdom.Not a single week passes that I don't see her IMPACT.Her farewell hugs always came with " I love u plenty".WHAT A LIFE?SO FULLLLLLLL.
By divine providence mumy and dady joined us in holy matrimony

Dupe said...

this is really inspiring brother Banji, in short i was really touched with every words have read and heard about Mummy Akinyemi....though that time i was young but i can also feel her and i can still remember how she made an impact in my sister's life's too when she was going astray, talking to her with the words of GOD, always inviting her over to her house and all those stuff.. may her gentle soul continue to rest in perfect peace we love u but God loves you most.

Olusola said...

A rare gem whose memory lingers on in our mind for an impactful life, affecting both young and the old. Gentle voice which but sounds thunderous in the mind as every word is always targetd to a purpose. She always there for everyone. Her impact in my family is something we can never forget. She indeed made lives of out lifeless situation and people. Prov. 10.7.

Sola B

Sola A said...

Hope many youths will read and imbibe this.Truth in all simplicity bedrocks a proven relationship

Evangelist Bee said...

Yes i remember the I LOVE U PLENTY!
and sure the Youths need to learn about the power of undiluted love - works in every generation.
EVB

TITILAYO said...

Thank you Sir for sharing the life of EKA with us even thou i do not know her, but the things have read about her now have got me thinking and i ask myself, What has been my impact in the lifes of people around me? Thank God for giving me this opportunity to start affecting lifes positively and thank God for her life.

TITILAYO.

Evangelist Bee said...

Titilayo

Please do affect lives as Much as you can - Heaven will help you !
its not how long but how relevant. God bless.

EVB

Akintunde Akinyemi said...

Glad to know that Mummy, EKOFO, as I called her in the last days is still impacting lives in her death. Her words were truly spirit and life, hence the impact they still make. She was a light to her generation and set other generations on the path of divine destiny. The prayer is for those of us still here to surpass her impact. Greater works that these shall you do, if you believe in the God of EKOFO.

I remember her always calling me "Baby me" even after meeting my fiancee(now my wife). She was a great Mum to us her biological children. Time will not permit to talk about the great exploits she demonstrated behind closed doors. Firstly in the closet,then with words, then in tenacity. We are priviledged to have lived so close to this burning force of life. I have a voice (literally) today because of the prayers of this great woman. She demonstrated with great strength what it means to have a good marriage. I never heard her lift her voice at my Dad. Even when things were tight, she was still great. She knew things will always work out well and they did. She was as graceful in trials as she was in triumphs. She was truly a force behind my Dad. There were no gimmicks with her. Everything was raw substance. There was something piercing about her words, you just could not get away from them. She always knew exactly the right words to speak to get results without being manipulative.

We certainly do miss her but her words live on in our hearts.

Brother B, thanks for this. Great work.

Evangelist Bee said...

Tunde

Indeed the baby of "EKOFO"-great. That's another dimension. Thanks for taking time out to share.

"Firstly in the closet,then with words, then in tenacity. We are priviledged to have lived so close to this burning force of life. I have a voice (literally) today because of the prayers of this great woman. She demonstrated with great strength what it means to have a good marriage. I never heard her lift her voice at my Dad."

This comment summarizes it. I can't fault this. She gave so many people a voice and a path in life even outside her home. The closet works. The law of inside out works. Getting it right internally and manifesting it externally works.

God bless you.

EVB

Anonymous said...

Thanks for this wonderful story and the comments by all who knew EKA is something worth thinking about.
On a beautiful Sunday morning like this all I have been doing is to cry. Why?
That Jehovah will help me to be a better person for HIM, my community & myself.
I want to go 'HOME' a fulfilled woman.
Oh Jesus, let my life be a true reflection of you. Amen

Evangelist Bee said...

Dear Sister,
I can feel you, your thoughts as you wrote this comments. That’s why the story is there – to inspire to take up the challenge for change and RELEVANCE. I pray for you in the name of Jesus that when you go home, you will be fulfilled. That you would have completed your race like Paul and would have fought the good fight in Jesus Name. As the Lord lives, you will be better affecting homes and lives in Jesus Name.
Bless you Sis.
EVB

JKF said...

I read this post about EKA. It indeed moved me that she must have been a woman that loved someone no questions asked. I would have loved to know her, I hope all that knew her and learnt from her would keep sharing her wisdom and using it. Thanks for sharing with us all. The Almighty would continue to prosper you in all your undertakings.

AdeOluwa Ope. Adenaike said...

Mummy, what a reminiscence! I often visited their house just to practice on the piano keyboard. Then one day, unknown to me, she had been prayerfully asking God to bring me and she couldn't hide her joy when i appeared. She warmly sat me down, appreciated my "holy" effrontry at ministering the Gospel in one particular way and cautioned my excesses in presentation. She took time to explained many things to me. Her words were direct, soft and loving. The truth is that taht improved my perception about the concerns of Christ and his aboundance of grace in reaching sinners. That Jesus came to show love and save sinners. It went with me all through my University days of evangelism exercises till now. In my early tears on Campus, God took over from where she stopped and possed many more puzzles, to help me completely welcome all to-be-receipients of salvation as Christ would do. that i may work with him without guile especially with compassion for sinners and be like Christ at heart. She made me first realise that just after my secondary education.
One of my exceptional best friend today came as a result of the word of life she sowed...Just like yesterday.
Although, i didnt have much contact with her again since she left Lagos; but hers was "one touch-a life transformed."

Evangelist Bee said...

Bro Adeolu,
"Her words were direct, soft and loving" That truly is who she is!
Am glad her effect made a difference in your life too
Bless you
EVB

Anonymous said...

I am speechless cos she's worth so much. I cnt evn describe at all.

Evangelist Bee said...

Dear Anonymous
Thats not a strange feeling. I have heard that from so many people after reading about this lovely Saint. I pray your story too will make men become " short of words" positively
EVB

Anonymous said...

Sir,I got 2 knw of dis site wen u came 2 our church(rccg-jesus sanctuary). I ve ben blessd wit d things u share on dis site but dis morning while reading mama Eka's story, i cried out unto God 2 help me. I dont knw her but from the things shared about her it was obvious dat she was a woman of prayer always in constant and consistent communion wit God. I perceived she was also a doer of d word. As i read her story, i saw my shortcomings, my weaknesses, my inadequacies,my inner struggles and i cried out 2 God 4 help. Help 2 love,serve,obey Him and be a blessing 2 my generation. Please sir,also pray 4 me.

Evangelist Bee said...

Hello,
am not surprised at your comments as the story of EKA always inspires. The Lord will help you. You will also be relevance. You will fulfill your purpose and it shall be well with you. Heaven will make you great and relevant in the life of men.
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Unknown said...

Imagine coming across this post of 2011. God is indeed great. To some, her life was short, but to me she lived her purpose. And i can only pray that i live my purpose. Making heaven is important, but what will people say about me when am gone is equally important. We should live in such a way that even when we are gone, testimonies of our lives, should still draw hearts to Jesus. God help me please.

Evangelist Bee said...

Tomilola
Anytime I remember this woman - EKA- tears well up in my life.

As you have prayer - you will fulfil your purpose and it shall be well you in Jesus Name.

EVB

Anonymous said...

I googled Oore Ofe sha nigbekele mi to get all the lyrics. As my only owe orin is far from sight.
This page came up and I decided to read.
I couldn't stop reading.
And I am taking notes already.

Thank you all for sharing. I pray that the government of Christ Jesus increase in all of our lives to the Glory and Honor of His Name. My name is Modupe

Evangelist Bee said...

@ modupe

I am excited at your feedback and grateful to God that you were insipired at evangelistbee blogsite.

As you have prayed - His Government will increase in our lives in Jesus Name

Bless you!!!!
EVB