WHATS IS THIS? IS THIS REALLY LOVE? OR LUST? TRUE LOVE RESPECTS TIME.

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I started writing this on the "sea shore". That's what the pretty Ghanaian Lady  Security  guard called it when I asked her to open the gate that connects  the back of the Hotel to the Atlantic Ocean. Don't get scared. I was not planning to swim. Who “born” me? The best friend I have ever made with water is in the bath tub. After that - I pass.  I have been doing this every morning since I got here. Its been a 3-mile/ one hour prayer walk just  yards off the tip of the Atlantic. This morning was going to be special. I had just concluded a 2- day/3-session preaching marathon and felt I needed to spend more time today to thank God for proving himself and honoring His time tested word. Then I saw something for the second time in two days that got me upset - really upset. Let me use an American saying courtesy my daughter - "I was raving…." You finish it! It’s not from my mouth you will hear it that way.
 

I was supposed to be praying which I did. Don't mind me. Who prays besides the Atlantic Ocean  with eyes closed-except he wants to sing nearer my God to thee. That is if he has a chance to even do the singing that before he transits even though the waves are calmer this morning! As I was "Watching and Praying" I saw two love birds "making out" by the beach – second time in two days. What’s  the most current English language for “fooling around”?  They were locals not visitors. They were not on holiday! Lord have mercy - its 8 a.m. on a Tuesday morning. The ones I saw yesterday was 7.30am on  Monday morning. No! Call me old school. This cannot be right. No sir! Excuse me ma, this cannot be progressive. Morning hours are precious. Any life that will go far must respect it and use it well.
 

Ecc 3:1  To everything there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven:
 

The secret of great men lies in what they do with their time particularly in the mornings. True love respects time. True love uses time positively. See - I know what you are saying? They are in love! No comment on that as the line between love and lust is real even though its sometimes thin. Love without productivity will soon be in the past. You need purpose to sustain true love. Any other thing outside that  is lust. They say love is blind. Is love truly blind? 

My wife is adept at repeating it that if love is blind, it is marriage that will open the blindness. I posit that love, true love is not blind. It is Lust – raw, unbridled, uncontrolled that is dead blind. It completely thrives in darkness and secrecy. If a man wants to take to the beach in the morning of a working day and you are not on vacation nor is it a weekend, better elope if you are single – flee! When you marry he will spend his mornings watching Nollywood videos and Hollywood action films – trust me.  If married and your husband request for beach fun on a working day, you need to start a vigil! If you are a young woman requesting for " loving-gitis" by the beach from a full bodied healthy thirty year old man on a Tuesday morning, you are fire killer- a purpose destroyer. I have a seen a lot young dynamic women and young men with a promising future fizzle out because of mismanagement of their time, wrong allocation of their priorities and misplacement of expectations. If I spend one week with you I can predict your future based on what you do with your time if you sustain the direction I see. It is little hinges that swing big doors. Little things matters.
 

There is something in a man called a DRIVE. Moses had it. Jesus had it. Paul had it. It was what woke Sam Watson up early in the morning in Bentoville Arkansas before anyone heard about Wal-Mart publicly. If your husband is currently not rich but He still has a drive, you are safe! There is hope. A drive to please God! A drive to sacrifice! A drive to bond! Whatever you do - don't kill his drive by asking him to misuse his time. Don't stifle the little flame of commitment in her. Respond not React. How? Allocate time wisely to do something about your life and hers.
 

I remember the story of a young woman who wanted to commit suicide and was referred to me- very pathetic story. If we talk, you say we talk too much. You call us old school. When you get  messed up– you will be looking for prayer contractors with anointing oil to hawk to bail you out! I spoke extensively on this on my write up - 

http://www.evangelistbee.com/2010/11/what-is-this-is-this-christianity-is.html

Your choice today determines your end in the next coming years. The lady who wanted to commit suicide ignored the law of drive in a man. The guy was homeless, hopeless and purposeless. She "fell" in love- very convenient. She threw caution to the wind. He moved into her house. “Monkey dey work, Baboon dey chop” She became a wife without a marriage and the guy was living off her for over 5 years. Its like driving without a license. Her conscience as a Christian died. Everything she stood for flew out of the window. This useless man sleeps and watches TV while she goes to work. She got pregnant - aborted - twice! Second one was ectopic and her tube was cut. For what? For who? Is it worth this stress? Is the relationship you are in worth the stress  to warranty the commitment – cant you see that this lover girl does not value time. He is not ready. She is still a baby. Age is not maturity! After almost six years of “using her” without any way forward, the guy moved to another woman in same apartment block. She just came back from work and found that he had changed address from 4th floor to 7th floor. So callous! He moved – to another level? You see why she wants to commit suicide! This was why I shouted out to men in my write up- 

http://www.evangelistbee.com/2011/01/what-is-this-what-kind-of-men-are-these.html
 

I begged men to be men. I pleaded with them to respect their God ordained roles.
 

True love respects your time. Time invested in a relationship matters! Above all,we need to invest time to improve ourselves so our future partners and family members can benefit from a better us.

What’s this? Lord help me! I have been on this trail on this seashore for 30minutes and this two love birds are still here? Am so........ Sorry let's get back to me, you –I mean us. Let’s leave them alone. As we were saying! Let's not take life for granted. It’s a gift.

What am I saying? What is my drift?
 

1. If you found true love, spend time wisely nurturing it. Invest in quality prayer time. Invest in books that will lay foundation for your future. They don't sell that on beaches. Dont sell off your future at beaches! You can go to beaches but the right time and space!

Psa 81:12  So I gave them up unto their own hearts' lust: and they walked in their own counsels.
 

2. If you are still searching, get ready. Nobody wants to marry pain. No one (even if he or she is under a curse) will marry a known and revealed demon. Free yourself and get ready for “Prince Charming”. Esther did her tutelage under Mordecai to get ready for her role as a Queen. No wonder she never messed up. Get ready. Woe betide the unprepared.

Ecc 3:8  A time to love, and a time to hate; a time of war, and a time of peace.
 

3. Let's do something about our software- the way we think. Indeed we need a renewed mind. I recently read about a young woman who wrote in to a newspaper columnist about what is bothering her. You want to know. No! You don't want to know. She was complaining that the young man she found who wants her hand in marriage is a 28 year old virgin. He is committed, healthy, God fearing and handsome BUT he is a virgin and so......? She must be daft. You know what it takes in this age of lewd music, Nollywood movies and internet porn for a healthy young man to still make a choice not to sin till he is 28 years! I did not pray for her. No she does not deserve it. I prayed for him that God will set him free from this leech who will only destroy him.
 

Php 4:8  Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.
 

4. Irrespective of who we are and what we are now, we need to AUDIT our time. Relegate the urgent but un-important items. Let's seek to invest in true love the right way and at the right time. David saw because he was not at work – at war!
 

2Sa 11:1  And it came to pass, after the year was expired, at the time when kings go forth to battle, that David sent Joab, and his servants with him, and all Israel; and they destroyed the children of Ammon, and besieged Rabbah. But David tarried still at Jerusalem.
 

My hour is up. Now as I leave the shore where our forefathers were carried into slavery, I pray for these two love birds that they will find Him that organizes the life of men and that they will set their priorities right and fulfill their destinies in Jesus name.
 

Gal 5:16  This I say then, Walk in the Spirit, and ye shall not fulfil the lust of the flesh.
 

Go and show true love and respect time.Remember, even when Jesus will come unannounced, they will still be getting married and planning to build a family. Are you ready?
 

1Jn 2:17  And the world passeth away, and the lust thereof: but he that doeth the will of God abideth for ever.
 

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Your brother,

EVANGELIST BEE. 

No. 119 – 25th January 2010

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